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  • Should i quit restoring?

    Over the past few months iv been doing less and less restoring. Iv been at it for over 6-7 months but I don't feel like it's done much. I'm Ci-3 so i kinda expected that. But it's gotten to the point where idk if i can keep restoring. I have no motivation anymore and the depression from it keeps me from wanting to do anything at all. Iv considered therapy but everyone on here says they basically just brush it off as a small issue that isn't very important. It affects my day to day life and i can't take it sometimes. The DTR has done some good but now it feels like it just doesn't give enough tension anymore. It differenlty loosens the amount of tension i set not that long after setting it (I use the setscrew).

    Erections also make it very hard to keep a schedule since i have to take it off everytime. Chuck says to take it off every few hours as is. With the recent Foregen news I'm not sure restoring is worth it, especially since it seems it will cause issues if the research is successful and the surgery does work.

    I'm really stuck and need any help that anyone can give me.

  • #2
    Take it one day at a time? Sometimes you just need to stay the course until you get through a period like this.

    Or

    Take a break? There is nothing wrong with taking a break. Sometimes it seems either or, but reality is rarely so black and white. I take breaks fairly frequently. Generally, after a while, I get itchy to get back to restoring.

    As far as Forage, I have seen nothing that makes me think that restoring prior to using regenerative techniques will in any way cause issues. Right no, no one knows how it will even work, or if the results will be any better than what we do now. It may not be ready for 10 years or more. Why wait to gain the benefits of having a foreskin based on some assumptions that may or may not be correct?

    Hope that helps in some way.

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    • #3
      I'm off to my therapist in a minute. I asserted that my circumcision was a seal assault. I was 3 at the time and remember vividly being taken from my mum and fighting the medical team who pinned me down and anaesthetised me. I remember the shame and sense of failure after. The latter memory only emerged during therapy.

      If you are able, try therapy. My therapist is not judgemental. However, she did challenge me to explore whether my restoring is a firm of dysmorphia. Which it isn't but it was worth exploring.

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      • #4
        I think you should quit. Sounds like you already have.

        You know, when you think about it, those of us who've finished are in a kind of elite group. There aren't many of us. We did what it took to see results. "Elite" ... leaves most others behind, by definition. So it only makes sense that most guys don't have the desire to go the distance in this process. Doesn't take a lot of effort, but it takes more than most want to give. Blunt way to put it, maybe, but true.

        Choices. We all have ... and make ... choices.
        Last edited by Info; 07-05-2016, 02:59 PM.

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        • #5
          I would commit to a time period (something longer...like a year) and find a daily routine you can live with. Make it a daily habit. Mix up your methods.

          I don't think the setscrew methods/fixed tension are a great idea on a dual tension tugger. One slip or a little bit of extra stretching or shifting of the skin and boom, there goes all your tension out the window. Try out rubber bands, air, or a tugging strap.

          And of course, if it's really making you miserable, just step back and take a breather. No one needs to restore to live.
          Visit my restoration progress journal.

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          • #6
            Hey bro, I hear your frustration. I've been at this 1 yr 9 mo. I've seen some results. I've varied my methods. I do it as lifestyle and time allow. I reinvigorate periodically and taper off some too. It's a long road. Sounds like you are farther than me. Be happy you've progressed and discovered this improvement opportunity.

            I suggest focusing on life stuff that makes you happy. Devote time to that. Come back to restoring when you are recharged. It's okay to falter and reinvest yourself. Success stories on here indicate it is LONGGG.

            Know that we all probably experience the doldrums. You'll bootstrap up at some point if you really want it. Happiness is something we choose and manifest too. FR is just one facet of life. Stick with it and you'll reap benefits at some point.

            best wishes

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            • #7
              Thank you for the replies.
              I think what I'm going to do is keep pushing. I don't wanna give up now. I'm going to try to buy some more rubberbands for it. If anybody has any tips on remaining soft while wearing it (even though that is a very awkward subject) please let me know.

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              • #8
                Think of grandma, kittens, 2 hours in a cold swimming pool, and your 4th grade angry school principal.

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                • #9
                  LetsGrow what's going on around you when you get hard while wearing it (I'd ask "what are you doing", but I don't want to pin the blame on you)?

                  Kohuk Would it be a violation of patient/therapist confidentiality if I asked why your therapist challenged you to explore that?

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                  • #10
                    Random erections, also from being around my girlfriend.

                    Today i did 8 hours of DTR, rubberbands. And i did 30 minutes of manual.

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by LookingGlass View Post
                      LetsGrow what's going on around you when you get hard while wearing it (I'd ask "what are you doing", but I don't want to pin the blame on you)?

                      Kohuk Would it be a violation of patient/therapist confidentiality if I asked why your therapist challenged you to explore that?
                      Well, it's hard to speak for her but before the sessions began we both set expectations and our understanding. This included her asking challenging questions. I'm confident enough to push back and quite like having a therapist I can spar with; I wouldn't trust a fluffy one. Ultimately I think she didn't understand the physiology of what we do. It is possible for someone to be restoring as am emotional displacement activity so it's a question worth exploring: am I doing this with appropriate expectations?

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by Kohuk View Post

                        Well, it's hard to speak for her but before the sessions began we both set expectations and our understanding. This included her asking challenging questions. I'm confident enough to push back and quite like having a therapist I can spar with; I wouldn't trust a fluffy one. Ultimately I think she didn't understand the physiology of what we do. It is possible for someone to be restoring as am emotional displacement activity so it's a question worth exploring: am I doing this with appropriate expectations?
                        The truth is, real therapy will only happen when expectation meet reality, each and every time both are visited. That's where the work is, in every situation, and where basic existential truth reveals itself. In other words, you and she can "expect" whatever the hell you want, but the ongoing experience of "painfully slow" has a way of either changing the central focus to some other issue, or, as a hoped-for therapeutic result, rounding off the sharp edges. Assuming, that is, you can hang in there for the year after year that it takes to see physical (and perceptual) results.

                        The thing is, because she's a female, there will always be a bit of a disconnect between you two, if owning a penis and "restoring" it, is the central theme in your visits. That's a potential problem in itself.

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                        • #13
                          I've been in similar situation man. My heart goes out to you.

                          I would say take a little break and don't let it get you down. Find something else to occupy your time and come back to restoration in a little bit. I haven't been restoring for the past week because I figured that I needed a little break. That being said, I still religiously wear the Your-Skin Cone.

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                          • #14
                            Nothing wrong with a break once and A while. Breaks are good. Your skin needs recovery time every so often.

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by Kohuk View Post
                              Ultimately I think she didn't understand the physiology of what we do. It is possible for someone to be restoring as am emotional displacement activity so it's a question worth exploring: am I doing this with appropriate expectations?
                              Was "physiology" a typo for "psychology"?
                              I don't understand the connection between "it's possible restoring can be an emotional displacement activity" and "am I doing this with appropriate expectations?".

                              Originally posted by Info
                              the ongoing experience of being "painfully slow" has a way of either changing the central focus to some other issue, or, as a hoped-for therapeutic result, rounding off the sharp edges.
                              Does "painfully slow" refer to restoration, with therapy hopefully being the cherry on top?

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