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  • Scott Hammond
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    Thanks, for your small personal Judgments.

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  • Alexajones
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    A combination of techniques may be helpful for restoring masturbation:
    • Spend more time with others
    • Exercise.
    • Find a support group.
    • Avoid pornography. Exposure to pornography may trigger the desire to masturbate.
    • Stay active.
    • Seek professional help.

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  • admin
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    Originally posted by greg_b View Post
    Hey guys, please refrain from the back and forth, personal attacks. Either contact him because he asked, or do not. Simple. Lets be supportive.
    Indeed. Our forum policy on civility is simple:

    Our forum policy is to address the IDEA not the USER who posted it.

    Our policy is to address each user as if it was really a loved one hiding behind the screen name.

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  • greg_b
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    Hey guys, please refrain from the back and forth, personal attacks. Either contact him because he asked, or do not. Simple. Lets be supportive.

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  • Scott Hammond
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    Originally posted by Phoenix View Post
    Going to go back on my statement of not saying anymore, this once, because I need to set the record straight and not let you make statements about something that I did not say.

    Please, just re-read my original post. There is nothing in there about labelling yourself or anyone in any shape or form Gay because they masturbate; or even implying it. I would never do that. There is no shame in being Gay, Hetro, in-between or the many other labels that there are, it is just one aspect and one of the many variations of the human race. And yes, of course forms part of person's identity, so I would never question that or attempt to marginalise someone because of who they are. What I said and what I was hoping to get across, and it's only my opinion, is to be careful that it doesn't become an uncontrollable habit and more importantly be careful that it doesn't become a substitute for a relationship.

    The subject can be controversial because there are so many opinions on the matter and tightly held beliefs across the world.

    Apart from that, wank away if you want to; which I'm sure you will. I'm not trying to stop you or anyone from doing it, I personally don't care if people do or don't. Please stop trying to imply anything else. If you don't stop doing that I will request that you are removed from the forum.


    Why are you still posting on this thread? If somebody masturbates 13 times a day, Yes I would say said person has a problem. If somebody states Hey I enjoy masturbating 3 times to once a day. That does not constitute a problem. I'd be lucky if I could masturbate everyday, but honestly. It's probably 2-3 times a week. That's all I said, I'm a heterosexuals' man, who enjoys masturbation, and would like to find another restoring hetro guy whoo feel's the same. Then you launched your personnel attack, and diatribe on me accusing me of being a sex addict. So now, after continued harassments from you. You threaten to make a complaint, and have me removed? Mabey I should complain about you harassing's me on my own thread...

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  • Scott Hammond
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    Originally posted by CI5 View Post
    I love how im called profanic names for no reason other than i asked u a question. Seems to me if u are discussing masturbation with another male, that in of itself, is homoerotic.
    Your statement required proper response. Just because I'm Heterosexual, enjoy masturbating, and letting other Heterosexual Men know that it's OK to talk about it, and not feel Homophobic. Your response was to counter my statement. As in a way to say. Hey it's OK to be "Homoerotic" as you word it. Why not try having sex with a Gay or Bi Guy. I've made it very clear where I'm coming from, and you continue to try to counter my statement.

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  • Phoenix
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    Originally posted by Scott Hammond View Post

    Then why post anything at all? It's only controversial to you, because it goes against your agenda. To convince somebody, to your way of thinking. Why else would you post something like that on this thread. When you have a very positive guy, sexually open to tell men it's OK. To talk Masturbation with other men, and not be Gay. No, you can't have that, what you need is to be able to confuse some poor soul, that he'a Gay. if he thinks like that. Listen buddy, I been around the block a few times. I see what's happening on these form's.
    Going to go back on my statement of not saying anymore, this once, because I need to set the record straight and not let you make statements about something that I did not say.

    Please, just re-read my original post. There is nothing in there about labelling yourself or anyone in any shape or form Gay because they masturbate; or even implying it. I would never do that. There is no shame in being Gay, Hetro, in-between or the many other labels that there are, it is just one aspect and one of the many variations of the human race. And yes, of course forms part of person's identity, so I would never question that or attempt to marginalise someone because of who they are. What I said and what I was hoping to get across, and it's only my opinion, is to be careful that it doesn't become an uncontrollable habit and more importantly be careful that it doesn't become a substitute for a relationship.

    The subject can be controversial because there are so many opinions on the matter and tightly held beliefs across the world.

    Apart from that, wank away if you want to; which I'm sure you will. I'm not trying to stop you or anyone from doing it, I personally don't care if people do or don't. Please stop trying to imply anything else. If you don't stop doing that I will request that you are removed from the forum.


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  • CI5
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    Oh and im unsure how what i said construes my sexuality.

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  • CI5
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    I love how im called profanic names for no reason other than i asked u a question. Seems to me if u are discussing masturbation with another male, that in of itself, is homoerotic.

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  • Scott Hammond
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    Originally posted by Phoenix View Post

    It is a controversial topic and I’m just putting one view out there. I’m not judging or even care if people do it. Like anything it can get out of hand if overdone, I never said (or intended to imply) that it was a psychological order. However, it can be if left unchecked. Which is true for just about any habit.

    I wasn’t trying to troll, far from it. It was on topic and I’m sure most people on the forum would have taken it as the way it was intended, simply one man’s opinion. Take it or leave it.

    Anyway, that’s all I’m going to say on the subject.
    So, I hope you will excuse me for calling B.S, to all your B.S.

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  • Scott Hammond
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    Originally posted by Phoenix View Post

    It is a controversial topic and I’m just putting one view out there. I’m not judging or even care if people do it. Like anything it can get out of hand if overdone, I never said (or intended to imply) that it was a psychological order. However, it can be if left unchecked. Which is true for just about any habit.

    I wasn’t trying to troll, far from it. It was on topic and I’m sure most people on the forum would have taken it as the way it was intended, simply one man’s opinion. Take it or leave it.

    Anyway, that’s all I’m going to say on the subject.
    Then why post anything at all? It's only controversial to you, because it goes against your agenda. To convince somebody, to your way of thinking. Why else would you post something like that on this thread. When you have a very positive guy, sexually open to tell men it's OK. To talk Masturbation with other men, and not be Gay. No, you can't have that, what you need is to be able to confuse some poor soul, that he'a Gay. if he thinks like that. Listen buddy, I been around the block a few times. I see what's happening on these form's.

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  • Phoenix
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    Originally posted by Scott Hammond View Post

    WTF is this Diatribe about? Can a guy just enjoy looking at women & getting off? I started this thread about being Heterosexual, and unashamed of masturbation.. Then this Clown/Troll/Phd post on this thread a Diatribe of exactly the opposite, that Masturbation is a symptom of a psychological disorder. Well it may be that way for him. Like a few I've already encountered on this site. I ain't got no psychological disorder.
    It is a controversial topic and I’m just putting one view out there. I’m not judging or even care if people do it. Like anything it can get out of hand if overdone, I never said (or intended to imply) that it was a psychological order. However, it can be if left unchecked. Which is true for just about any habit.

    I wasn’t trying to troll, far from it. It was on topic and I’m sure most people on the forum would have taken it as the way it was intended, simply one man’s opinion. Take it or leave it.

    Anyway, that’s all I’m going to say on the subject.

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  • Scott Hammond
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    Originally posted by Phoenix View Post
    I’m going to go out on a limb here about the subject of a wank. Can be quite a divisive topic with all manner of opinions. It’s true that just about every human male has done it and if they say they haven’t then they are properly lying. We are all driven to seeking pleasure. Yes, even men in a healthy sexual relationship have been known to rub one out.
    A lot of “experts” have written about the subject, just a quick search on the internet will reveal a lot of articles on the subject. However, I do have my doubts about the claims of “keeps the oil fresh” and stopping the build-up of carcinogenic chemicals etc. The human body already has an effective method of removing these. For a healthy male, if there is a build of semen it will simply get rid of it though “nocturnal emissions”, i.e. wet dreams (yes these can still happen when you are older) or the body simply re-absorbs it.
    Then there is the issue of the build-up of “sexual tension” that wants to be released and a good wank is a quick and easy way to get some relief. Again, however there are other ways to “ride that dragon” and get through those periods.

    The problem with continual wanking as an alternative to sex with a real person is that it could be used as an avoidance mechanism from forming a relationship with someone. You may want to think about that if it applies to you. True, some people make a deliberate choice about not wanting to be in any sort of relationship.

    The other issue is that it becomes a habit and one that is very difficult to stop. The question for you is, does your habit control you or are you in control of what you do? Me personally, I would rather be in control of what I do rather than give in to some spur of the moment urges. I know, easier said than done. Just like any addiction.

    One final thought, for me personally I am not concerned whether or not other men like to have a daily (or more frequent) wank. Just understand why you are doing it, what are you getting out of it? Etc. What is really going on, do you want to be master of you own choices or simply give in to the basic pleasure seeking mechanism of your brain. As humans we have the ability to override the primitive brain if we really try to. Teenage boys I understand as they have just discovered something that to them is amazing and experiment with ways of making themselves feel good. As adults, we really should be moving from the basic motivations of self-pleasure. Sure, there is a time and place for pleasure, after all what is life without some pleasures, but constant indulgence; one really has to be asking, why? What is really going on here?
    WTF is this Diatribe about? Can a guy just enjoy looking at women & getting off? I started this thread about being Heterosexual, and unashamed of masturbation.. Then this Clown/Troll/Phd post on this thread a Diatribe of exactly the opposite, that Masturbation is a symptom of a psychological disorder. Well it may be that way for him. Like a few I've already encountered on this site. I ain't got no psychological disorder.
    Last edited by Scott Hammond; 12-31-2019, 05:52 PM.

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  • Scott Hammond
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    Originally posted by CI5 View Post
    Jerking off is jerking off. All human males do it. Most male primates do it. I am unsure by your post why you are looking for a fellow "hetero" male.
    if you want to discuss restoration.....shouldnt any ole restorer do the trick? Whats the beef that it has to be a straight dude?
    Because I'm hetero Jack Ass. Just because he is open to talk sex and Masturbation. with another man. Don't mean he's open to smoking a pole as well. Why is it every time I log on to a restoration web site seeking to network with other Heterosexual Restorers. I'm harased by all Gay, and Bi Dude's. Because of my sexuality," Being Hetro" or tried to be coversed that because because I find arousel in Male Sexuality. I must be Gay or Bi, or Closeted? I don't harrase any gay or bi men about there sexuality?

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  • Phoenix
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    I’m going to go out on a limb here about the subject of a wank. Can be quite a divisive topic with all manner of opinions. It’s true that just about every human male has done it and if they say they haven’t then they are properly lying. We are all driven to seeking pleasure. Yes, even men in a healthy sexual relationship have been known to rub one out.
    A lot of “experts” have written about the subject, just a quick search on the internet will reveal a lot of articles on the subject. However, I do have my doubts about the claims of “keeps the oil fresh” and stopping the build-up of carcinogenic chemicals etc. The human body already has an effective method of removing these. For a healthy male, if there is a build of semen it will simply get rid of it though “nocturnal emissions”, i.e. wet dreams (yes these can still happen when you are older) or the body simply re-absorbs it.
    Then there is the issue of the build-up of “sexual tension” that wants to be released and a good wank is a quick and easy way to get some relief. Again, however there are other ways to “ride that dragon” and get through those periods.

    The problem with continual wanking as an alternative to sex with a real person is that it could be used as an avoidance mechanism from forming a relationship with someone. You may want to think about that if it applies to you. True, some people make a deliberate choice about not wanting to be in any sort of relationship.

    The other issue is that it becomes a habit and one that is very difficult to stop. The question for you is, does your habit control you or are you in control of what you do? Me personally, I would rather be in control of what I do rather than give in to some spur of the moment urges. I know, easier said than done. Just like any addiction.

    One final thought, for me personally I am not concerned whether or not other men like to have a daily (or more frequent) wank. Just understand why you are doing it, what are you getting out of it? Etc. What is really going on, do you want to be master of you own choices or simply give in to the basic pleasure seeking mechanism of your brain. As humans we have the ability to override the primitive brain if we really try to. Teenage boys I understand as they have just discovered something that to them is amazing and experiment with ways of making themselves feel good. As adults, we really should be moving from the basic motivations of self-pleasure. Sure, there is a time and place for pleasure, after all what is life without some pleasures, but constant indulgence; one really has to be asking, why? What is really going on here?

    Leave a comment:

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