Bit scared and need help - I am starting out

[golkante]

Hello,

I am a bit over 18, raised in and currently with a very conservative family and environment. Wasn't circumcised.

I have been masturbating semi-regularly for about 3 years now and never had any problems. It works fine and feels healthy. I don't have sore penis issues either.

I just found by reading on the internet that the foreskin should be able to retract completely, but mine doesn't. I tried pulling mine back a bit, and goes back by a little more than 1cm, but does not completely expose the head - only like 75% of it. It seems that the inner skin is fused to my glans penis.

I cannot talk to a doctor about this, specially not right now. It seems that I need to keep trying regularly bit by bit and then it would loosen and detach? Is that correct? Any other thing I need to know? If I somehow break the bond, would it be fatally bad for my health?

I also read that generally the fusion of the inner skin automatically dis-integrates at the age of 14 or so. But that didn't happen with me. Did I start masturbation later than average? And could that be the reason? Is it still time for it to automatically disintegrate?

Thanks for any and all feedback/answers.

Update:

I was bathing and applied some cream lubrication to the inner skin, and tried to pull the foreskin down further, and this time it easily went down completely. No pain or anything. But I wasn't erect during that time. I was gaining erection just moments after that and I was afraid it might harm me, so I pulled it back up quickly. This has relieved me a bit, but I'd try this again a couple times and also when erected. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated.

Also worth noting that so far I have felt that my orgasms have been really powerful. I mean, I can't measure the sensitivity or compare with others, but somehow I feel that they are more sensitive and powerful than the average. And I have been having orgasms by rubbing the glans penis through the foreskin for a long period of time (like 30 minutes or so) with my fingers and thumbs and that gives me a "different" kind of orgasm - it feels very very powerful and almost flips me around. That was how I "self-discovered" masturbation while watching nude pics in a magazine. Then I found masturbating the regular way by pumping the shaft which also works fine but I prefer the other way. Will I lose this sensitivity by retracting the foreskin down?

[parsecskin]

First of all, I believe I can help. I was cut as an adult in my 30s, so I know a thing or 2 about the foreskin. It sounds like you just need more "exercise". You should be able to retract completely without discomfort, which it sounds like you can. Just be careful that your foreskin doesn't get stuck behind your head when erect. If it does, don't panic! Try slowly squeezing the blood out of your penis starting at the head. You should be able to reduce your erection enough to replace your foreskin where it belongs. Try taking your fingers and stretching the opening laterally to widen it a bit. Do this several times a day for a while and see what happens. Don't even bother going to a doctor as most likely be will recommend circumcision. TELL HIM TO FUCK OFF! Phimosis can be cure without cutting by stretching the opening. Stubborn cases might need the use of steroid cream such as betamethasone to speed and ease the stretching.

[golkante]

parsecskin thank you for the reply! I'd post an update after I try this when erect.

Try taking your fingers and stretching the opening laterally to widen it a bit. Do this several times a day for a while and see what happens.

Thank you for the tip, I will try this out!

Don't even bother going to a doctor as most likely be will recommend circumcision. TELL HIM TO FUCK OFF! Phimosis can be cure without cutting by stretching the opening. Stubborn cases might need the use of steroid cream such as betamethasone to speed and ease the stretching.

Noted, thanks. I myself do not want to undergo circumcision I'd look up that cream and see if I can arrange it if needed.

Thanks a lot!

[Science Monk]

First, you’re normal !

Studies have found that the average age of full retractability of the foreskin in boys is about 11 years of age. However, there is a wide range of individual variability in when first full retraction occurs. It’s a wide bell curve with anything between infancy to 18 years of age (and beyond, into one’s 20s) considered normal.

The good news is that you have shown that you can fully retract when flaccid.
What you can do once can be done again.

Baby boys are born with the foreskin fused to the glans via a membrane. This membrane slowly dissolves over the years, allowing full retractability. Since you have shown that you can completely retract, you know that your membrane has completely dissolved.

See the CIRP Library for a more complete treatment of the subject:
Normal development of the prepuce: Birth through age 18

http://www.cirp.org/library/normal/

Since the dawn of time, males with phimosis have been solving their own problem by simply stretching their foreskins back and forth over their glans until easy retractibility is achieved. Repeated stretching alone does the trick. The foreskin contains smooth muscle cells and connective tissue cells (fibroblasts). Repeated stretching is like bodybuilding for the foreskin. It introduces micro-tears at the molecular level. Then, when the micro-tears are repaired, sometimes a muscle cell will divide into two. Sometimes a fibroblast cell will do the dividing. This process results in more cells and a permanently larger foreskin which easy slinks over the glans.

You have an uncomplicated case of phimosis, which you can resolve by yourself. Complications include infection, and/or dry, cracked, or bleeding skin.

Sometimes, in various stages of erection, you may find that you can retract, but then have difficulty pulling your foreskin back over the glans. This condition is known as paraphimosis. It can be scary, because it looks like the circulation is being cut off. Just relax and lose the erection, and then return your foreskin back over your glans. Sometimes squeezing the glans to force the blood back into the shaft of the penis will help by reducing the size of the glans.

The stretching regimen can be aided by the use of corticosteroid creams. This works faster (typically 2 to 6 weeks) than stretching alone. If you go to the doctor, he will prescribe 0.05% betamethasone cream. This is available only by prescription, and it will keep you dependent upon him. However, in a study comparing 0.05% betamethasone cream and 1% hydrocortisone cream, 1% hydrocortisone cream was about 99% as effective, and it is available over the counter.

1% hydrocortisone cream is sold is sold under the trade name Cortaid. However, it is easily found as a store brand or generic. The last time I needed a tube of 1% hydrocortisone cream, I was lucky and found it at a Dollar Tree chain store for $1.

1% hydrocortisone cream comes in several formats:
1) as an ointment (greasier, more petroleum jelly, less mineral oil). Its most common use is for anal itching.
2) as a cream (less petroleum jelly, more mineral oil). Its most common use is for insect bites or skin rash.
3) in more recent years, a non-greasy water-based gel has become available.

In one study I remember reading years ago, the corticosteroid-and-stretching regimen worked for 95% of the males that were assigned to use it. When I dug deeper into the study I found that the 5% who failed were institutionalized, mentally retarded, or behaviorally disturbed males. If you do not belong to any of those groups, your chances of solving you phimosis problem in your own privacy is very, very good!

The corticosteroid creams work by favoring the division of fibroblasts over smooth muscle cells. Be careful not to overshoot your goal. You don’t want to end up with a floppy foreskin.

Corticosteroids are potent medicine. They are capable of drifting through cells and tissues without the aid of the bloodstream. Use a sparing dose of cream at first, and work your way up to a more generous slather if needed.

David
World As Monkey Island

[Guest]

If it retracts now, then NOTHING needs to be done. You are good to go about your life.

Enjoy.

[golkante]

Science Monk Very useful information, thank you!

Guest The issue is that it doesn't retract as easily/without pain when erect But I guess that can be solved by regular stretching as mentioned by others.

[Guest]

Science Monk Very useful information, thank you!

Guest The issue is that it doesn't retract as easily/without pain when erect But I guess that can be solved by regular stretching as mentioned by others.

Sure, by all means you can gently stretch, if that seems to help with accelerating the process. But the fact remains that if it is retracting even if there's discomfort presently, your situation will improve on its own eventually. Your choice of course. Good luck.

[golkante]

Update:

Thanks guys, my foreskin seems to retract now even when erect. It takes a bit of force by hand but I don't have any pain and I don't feel any other issues either. The only thing is, my glans penis seems way too sensitive. If I touch it, it feels like I am touching an electric wire carrying current. Is this an issue? What should I do to decrease its sensitivity if it is an issue? If not, wouldn't this be a problem in intercourse?

Thanks a lot for all your help and support!

[parsecskin]

Now that you can retract your foreskin, keep at the stretching so it becomes easier to retract. In time your glans will get used to being exposed from time to time and the hyper-sensitivity will diminish. I remember when I first retracted mine when i was about 10 or 11 and yes, it was like you describe. Since this retraction thing is new to you, how did you clean under it before?

[golkante]

Now that you can retract your foreskin, keep at the stretching so it becomes easier to retract. In time your glans will get used to being exposed from time to time and the hyper-sensitivity will diminish. I remember when I first retracted mine when i was about 10 or 11 and yes, it was like you describe. Since this retraction thing is new to you, how did you clean under it before?

Yes, I will keep practicing If the hyper-sensitivity diminishes, would I have any problems in having orgasms (or orgasms of the kind I described above in the original post)?

I cleaned the inside by simply pointing water to the insides from the shower and rinsed thoroughly. I am not sure if that was enough, and I feel really bad about it now. I had no idea I should be cleaning it better Since the past few days, I uncover the glans and very subtly wash it with mild soap. If I am still missing something, I'd be more than happy to hear. Thanks again, I really appreciate all the help!

[parsecskin]

Yes, I will keep practicing If the hyper-sensitivity diminishes, would I have any problems in having orgasms (or orgasms of the kind I described above in the original post)?

I cleaned the inside by simply pointing water to the insides from the shower and rinsed thoroughly. I am not sure if that was enough, and I feel really bad about it now. I had no idea I should be cleaning it better Since the past few days, I uncover the glans and very subtly wash it with mild soap. If I am still missing something, I'd be more than happy to hear. Thanks again, I really appreciate all the help!

DON'T USE SOAP!!!! There are beneficial bacteria that live in there that keep the nasties at bay and they require a specific Ph level to live. Soap changes the Ph level and the good bacteria die which opens up the door for all sorts of shit to grow in there. Soap also makes skin (mucousa) flake and the dead skin cells are like a Thanksgiving day meal for the nasties. Rinse with WATER ONLY. If you are in a situation where you don't have access to bathing facilities, like camping, etc., do the "pee bomb". Simply pinch your foreskin off, fill it up with a little urine (which is 99.9% sterile), slosh it around a bit and release. hence the "bomb", so be careful where you let it rip. Repeat a time or 2. Then retract and shake dry. Best done after drinking a lot of water, not your first morning piss. They actually teach this as a field cleaning technique in militaries around the world (except the US, they actually push circumcision in our military) as most are NOT cut.
Another option for cleaning in there is to use a water pik for cleaning your teeth set on low pressure. The long skinny nozzle will fit in there easily and comfortably. That's what I did when my foreskin first separated when I was like 10 or 11 until it retracted easily. Just remember to mark the nozzle you use for your dick!
As for orgasm quality, don't worry about it. You won't notice a whole lot of difference. Getting cut, on the other hand, the difference is HUGE and it sucks!

[golkante]

DON'T USE SOAP!!!! There are beneficial bacteria that live in there that keep the nasties at bay and they require a specific Ph level to live. Soap changes the Ph level and the good bacteria die which opens up the door for all sorts of shit to grow in there. Soap also makes skin (mucousa) flake and the dead skin cells are like a Thanksgiving day meal for the nasties. Rinse with WATER ONLY.

Oh okay, good to know. Thanks! I have used the soap since 4 days, will not repeat. Hopefully 4 times isn't too much!

Simply pinch your foreskin off, fill it up with a little urine (which is 99.9% sterile), slosh it around a bit and release. hence the "bomb", so be careful where you let it rip. Repeat a time or 2. Then retract and shake dry.

Very interesting. Will try!

As for orgasm quality, don't worry about it. You won't notice a whole lot of difference. Getting cut, on the other hand, the difference is HUGE and it sucks!

Noted, that's quite relieving to know. Thanks a lot!

[golkante]

Sorry for flooding this thread with questions - I have just one last question.

My foreskin "glides" on the shaft, and I have just realized that when stroking myself, I have never really "rubbed" the penis itself. I have just grabbed the foreskin and moved it up and down over the shaft (well, I didn't even know until recently that the foreskin is separate from the penis...). Now even after retraction of the foreskin down the head, I don't see how this could change - if the foreskin is atop the shaft, the foreskin will not let anything glide over the penis directly. The foreskin will glide over the penis and the penis will feel the gliding - but the thing which is causing the gliding (my palm during masturbation and vagina during intercourse) will feel nothing moving, just like during stroking I don't feel friction on my palm. So during intercourse, how would the vagina receive friction? Wouldn't only I receive pleasure and the girl's vagina not feel anything at all after the dick has been inserted into the vagina? Or is that how it is meant to be?

It is kinda hard to describe - but I am probably just missing the mechanics of intercourse. If there is some resource one can point me to, to read about this, or explain here, that would be very helpful!

[Tormod]

golkante - the opening of the vagina is very sensitive to stretching/expanding type movements. The bulk of your glans is the perfect tool for stimulating it.
Women often complain about the friction which results when a cicumcised penis is pushed in to, and pulled out of, the vagina. A sliding/gliding/rolling foreskin is the perfect means to avoid friction.

[parsecskin]

That's exactly the way nature designed it to work. Friction IS NOT the preferred way for either partner to feel pleasure. The vaginal walls are lined with ribs, or ridges that are designed to hold the foreskin in place. When you insert your penis into the vagina, your foreskin naturally slides back exposing the inner foreskin and glans to the soft moist and ribbed vaginal walls. On the in stroke it's mucosa on mucosa and this feels really good for both people. On the out stroke your penis slides back into its foreskin. This keeps the natural lube inside the vagina where it belongs. Without the foreskin, the rim of the head pulls out the natural lube creating excess friction and discomfort. Cirumcision is why the sex lube industry in the US is so prevalent. Intact guys NEVER need lube for sex or masturbation. Many women report soreness after sex with a cut guy. Sex shouldn't be uncomfortable or painful for either person. Sex should not be a "slamfest" with the guy taking these big long wild strokes to be stimulated, yet many cut guys can only get stimulated enough this way. When you're intact, it's a much slower, intimate and comfortable thing. Your pelvis also stays in more direct contact with her clitoris too when you're intact because you don't need those long wild strokes. In fact the foreskin contains the specialized nerve endings that allow you to go just before that point of no return and hold it there, by going real slow, for as long as you need for her to catch up (by stimulating her clitoris) so you can both go off together. Many women can't orgasm with a cut guy, so they fake it! There's nothing like a pulsating vagina squeezing your dick while you are orgasming too. When you're intact your orgasm lasts for minutes after ejaculation. Words don't describe it properly. At least you will have a lifetime of that!
You're intact. Spread the word to all your cut friends. Make them aware of the damage circumcision does so this shit STOPS!