Hi I'm Ben 15 Aussie

[Ben15aussie]

Hi guys, I'm new here, I'm Ben, I'm 15 from Australia. I was circumcised at birth and wish I wasn't so here I am. Hoping some of you guys can provide some guidance to me (my email is on my profile) so I can be happier about my manhood. Thanks dudes have a good one cheers

[SylLec]

Welcome to you, Ben15aussie

I invite you to browse through the gallery of progress of some members. Some of them, more inspiring, may lead you to progress in your restoration of your foreskin.

It's a long road, but it's worth the effort. It will take a lot of patience and consistency, but you can do it because many have done it before you. Fortunately for you, there is now more documentation available.

[Ben15aussie]

Thanks! 😀

[greg_b]

Here is a good guide to getting started:

FORUM: Beginner's Guide to Restoring | Restoring for Men (restoringforeskin.org)

My suggestion is to get started, but ease into it. Just get used to wearing something first. When your comfortable with that, experiment with the amount of tension. It is a long process, but a very worthwhile process.

[Ben15aussie]

So I recon I'm C.I. 3 to 4, I'm not tight at all, when I'm soft my shaft skin goes right to my head and it has some wrinkles and is loose comfortable, when I'm erect it tightens up slightly but still has some wrinkles and comfortable not tight feeling and skin to right behind the flared bit of my head. So I recon like the coverage index 3 to 4 somewhere around there. I wanna get it so my head is covered totally when I'm soft.

[Going Hooded]

Hi guys, I'm new here, I'm Ben, I'm 15 from Australia. I was circumcised at birth and wish I wasn't so here I am. Hoping some of you guys can provide some guidance to me (my email is on my profile) so I can be happier about my manhood. Thanks dudes have a good one cheers

I started restoring when I was 14 years old. If you keep in mind this is a slow & steady progress, as mundane as brushing your teeth you'll find success.

It will be a matter of lifestyle factors that determine when you may tub. I used the t strap method. It may be a starting place for you.

[Going Hooded]

So I recon I'm C.I. 3 to 4, I'm not tight at all, when I'm soft my shaft skin goes right to my head and it has some wrinkles and is loose comfortable, when I'm erect it tightens up slightly but still has some wrinkles and comfortable not tight feeling and skin to right behind the flared bit of my head. So I recon like the coverage index 3 to 4 somewhere around there. I wanna get it so my head is covered totally when I'm soft.

This was my initial goal as well. Then I decided to continue tugging after taking a break to re-evaluate.

[forescore]

That is a nice goal. It is where I am now. There will be plenty of time to adjust your goal along the way depending on what you are looking to accomplish. This can change but progress is so slow that adjustments are easy to think about. The most important thing is that you have set a goal. There is an amazing group of restorers on this site that will share information. You may get answers to questions that vary a bit. It will be up to you to find out what will work best in your situation. Consider each opinion as advice from which you can decide which one better fits your needs.

Welcome to the forum and restoring.
KOT (keep on tugging)
This is a saying that you will hear a lot.

[Ben15aussie]

Awesome thanks guys

[Ben15aussie]

Do you guys recon my circumcision was a milder/looser/less drastic one then cus my shaft has skin coverage and it's only my head that's visible all the time? Also as my penis continues to have some growth spurts do you guys recon this would affect where my skin ends for instance if my penis gets a bit longer but the shaft skin stays the same then it would have a bit less coverage or maybe the skin will grow with the overall length idk, plus I will start trying the tugging stuff to try stretch it and yea hoping it improves, thanks guys for any/all ongoing help

[Ben15aussie]

I'm so angry that my dad had this done to me just because "he was"!!! All my friends are not circumcised, so I get looks every time I'm changing for sports lessons, which is fine I normally wouldn't mind if other dudes looked at me but when you're the odd one out every time cus yours is different then it makes me really self conscious. When I recently lost my virginity the girl had only been with guys who had a foreskin so when my pants came down she just sorta looked unexpected and I had to explain I was circumcised and she said she didn't think that was done to guys my age here so it really made me feel self conscious again and not in the mood for something which should have been the best day of my life. When I recently experimented with another guy he liked that I was circumcised but overall I wish I was fully intact and for the last month I really haven't spoken to my dad to any significant amount as I'm so angry that anyone would do this like why not just leave the penis as it is FFS. Sorry for rant I had to get it off my chest. Thanks dudes

[SylLec]

I understand your frustration and anger and it's good that you realize it and express it.

Also, I cannot speak for your father and express the reasons for your circumcision. If I refer to my own experience, at the time it was a great ignorance bordering on a medical scam. Uncircumcised people were a minority in 1966. Yet I experienced a sense of abuse for a while. An uneasiness.

I hope you can find some peace through your foreskin restoration. It's like regaining possession of your body. This is the effect it had on me to calm my resentments by correcting past mistakes.

Maybe you'll find the courage to talk to him one day, if that's what it takes. In my case, it wasn't necessary, because I was more angry at a system than at my parents.

What I can tell you is that I live more at peace now and I am proud of my journey. That's what I wish for you.

Good luck with that.

[Ben15aussie]

SylLec thanks for your kind words

[forescore]

I hope you can find some peace through your foreskin restoration. It's like regaining possession of your body.

...

I was more angry at a system than at my parents.

What I can tell you is that I live more at peace now and I am proud of my journey. That's what I wish for you.

Good luck with that.

This.

I removed some of the quote to focus on what I feel....pretty much the same as SylLec

[greg_b]

Unfortunate that your dad felt that since he was circumcised that made it reasonable to circumcise you. Unfortunately, some doctors are biased and use that concept to pressure dads and moms into doing that. They use emotional pleas and fear mongering. Not saying that is how it worked for your dad, but that is exactly what happened to me when we had our first son.

Leading up to the birth my wife's OBGYN seemed unconcerned, and only asked a couple times, to which I said no. But then, right at the time of birth, just after I had cut the umbilical cord, was sleep deprived, and up on adrenaline after assisting as much as I could, they doctor lays into me. Pacing back and forth, emotional pleas about how my son would be damaged, how he would be teased and made fun of mercilessly, how leaving him intact would damage his life and self esteem. How he would see me and notice the difference.

That last, about him being different, fortunately helped me withstand that attack, simply because it is the stupidest argument in the book, though I am sure it works on many. But for me, if my son would not be damaged by seeing me, a six foot, eyeglass wearing, bearded, bald topped father with a full pubic bush, but because of my lack of foreskin he would, it is clear they are using irrational arguments. So I resisted, but I can say that it was not easy to resist in the moment.

You should be angry. But work through it, give yourself time to do that, much like grieving. You will be in a better place. And, I agree that restoring is a positive thing you can do to help you work through it.

Best wishes