Hi I'm Ben 15 Aussie

[Ben15aussie]

Thanks Greg and good on ya for standing firm 👍 Yeah, so when soldier dads come back from a warzone missing a leg, should definitely rush to amputate their sons right? Cus gotta look like dad...right?!? Yep the whole "cus dad's like it so you should be too" thing is crazy AF

[Ben15aussie]

My dad betrayed me and I'm very angry about it but I'm going to start being empowered and starting stretching stuff once I learn more about it and how to do it etc, I haven't looked thru everything yet 👌👍

[greg_b]

Thanks Greg and good on ya for standing firm 👍 Yeah, so when soldier dads come back from a warzone missing a leg, should definitely rush to amputate their sons right? Cus gotta look like dad...right?!? Yep the whole "cus dad's like it so you should be too" thing is crazy AF

Well said! Completely agree!

[Matt]

Sorry to hear you are so upset with your dad. Remember you won’t have him forever …

[Ben15aussie]

I fortunately have a lot of guy friends. I rarely get on well with my dad, on anything. There are times we are better but we are just very different people. I feel the onus should be on him to 1. take the lead and initiative in trying to connect with me in the context of my young manhood, and 2. admit what was done was wrong and apologise... Not the other way around. The onus for resolution of any injustice shouldn't have to fall on the victims. There are other things that when I changed into beginning as a man my dad should have taught me and provided me at least initially, but he did not. I do fortunately have several close guy friends, both my age and older as support with who I am fortunately close to. 🙂

[Going Hooded]

I fortunately have a lot of guy friends. I rarely get on well with my dad, on anything. There are times we are better but we are just very different people. I feel the onus should be on him to 1. take the lead and initiative in trying to connect with me in the context of my young manhood, and 2. admit what was done was wrong and apologise... Not the other way around. The onus for resolution of any injustice shouldn't have to fall on the victims. There are other things that when I changed into beginning as a man my dad should have taught me and provided me at least initially, but he did not. I do fortunately have several close guy friends, both my age and older as support with who I am fortunately close to. 🙂

I did not have a good relationship with my dad as a child or for most of my adult life until he eventually died of cancer. I believe in God. I tried to do what was right. It was extremely difficult the entire time. In fact I went just shy of 2 years of not talking to him as an adult. My good will got used up. It takes a lot to do this to me. But I needed it.

What I could suggest to you and hope you'd do better than me is if you have the opportunity to talk to him try and use "I" statements. This is instead of putting him in the position where he is defending himself. Once you start down that path it gets very hard for the main issue to remain at the focus of the conversation and for the conversation to remain productive. You can still say something like "I feel hurt" instead of "you hurt me". In a way it disarms the person you are talking about. If the person isn't spending all the time defending themselves you can make progress on the relationship.

I realize I am not you and in your situation. The other thing that has occurred to me as I type this is to suggest you try and meet your dad half way. If you try to be part of their world it might be enough initiative to allow a meaningful conversation.

I've been going to a social worker for help with the grief from an aunt I was very close to dying from cancer. I am making progress. It helps when talking to someone neutral. What I am trying to say is just because things haven't been good doesn't write the future of your relationship with your dad. Relationships take a lot of effort. I am not trying to get you to rust. You've said you have a support peers. It is worth talking about. But I expect you are able to be mature in deciding how to approach this.

[Ben15aussie]

Thanks ☺️
I'm staying over tonight at a friends so I'll think about what to say to him. I'll see what mood he's in when I get back home tomorrow afternoon.

[Matt]

Good luck my friend it’s difficult .

[BelgianChris]

First of all welcome!

Many here share the frustration you have, which is perfectly normal. I hope over time as you make progress you’ll start to feel better and hopefully it’ll decrease the anger a bit. Many circumcisions happen out of ignorance and also because of “the system” as others mentioned here. Luckily, in Australia (and many other countries) the practice has become less common than it used to be, but of course that doesn’t help you.

The good thing is that you’re getting started at a young age, so you will at least have a long time to enjoy the results.

I also always felt as the odd one growing up, as I also used to be the only one that was circumcised when growing up. I got circumcised for medical reasons, but to this date I’m still not sure if it was really needed, as phimosis (tight foreskin) tends to be heavily over-diagnosed. I don’t hold any anger towards my parents, but restoring really us made me feel better about my body and also made me much more comfortable about having others seeing me naked.

Initially I also just wanted to reach full flaccid coverage, but along the way I decided to shoot for more. I’ve had flaccid overhang now for several years, but I still notice improvements in sensation while continuing. My starting point was similar to yours, but I don’t have any pictures from those days.

Just take the time to find a method that you can accommodate easily in your daily routine and if you persist you’ll reach your goal eventually. It takes a (long) while, but it’s all worth it!

Best of luck!

[Ben15aussie]

Thank you! 🤗👍